You Don't Have to Dim to Win
You don’t have to trade your authenticity for opportunity. You don’t have to edit your essence to be worthy. You are allowed to be all of who you are — and still build beautiful, meaningful things.
“Don’t you worry that your clients follow you on Instagram?”
“Don’t you think you’ll miss out on opportunities by showing too much of yourself?”
Maybe you’ve heard questions like this too.
Maybe you’ve felt the tension — the quiet pressure to curate, to polish, to filter parts of yourself in order to be seen a certain way.
One moment, I’m sharing deep reflections about life and work…
And the next, I’m dancing, laughing, styling an outfit, or simply expressing something creative — just because it brings me joy.
And here’s the thing I’ve come to learn, and maybe it’s something you’ve been feeling too:
Freedom matters.
Freedom to be.
To express.
To share yourself — fully, truthfully, without performance.
Yes, we live in a world where perception is currency.
Where “being taken seriously” often demands a kind of uniform — in tone, in image, in behavior.
But at what cost?
I’ve tried it — the shrinking, the filtering, the “playing the game.”
And I’ve learned that the opportunities I thought would come from silencing parts of myself… never actually showed up.
Because they weren’t meant for a diluted version of me. And maybe they’re not meant for a diluted version of you either.
So now, I choose something else.
I choose peace.
I choose joy.
I choose alignment.
And I believe that the right people, projects, and platforms — the ones that truly matter — will recognize me because of my fullness, not in spite of it.
If you’re someone who’s been questioning whether you’re “too much” or “not enough”…
If you’ve been dimming your light to fit into a mold or to keep doors open…
This is your reminder:
You don’t have to trade your authenticity for opportunity.
You don’t have to edit your essence to be worthy.
You are allowed to be all of who you are — and still build beautiful, meaningful things.
So show up.
Speak your truth.
Share your dance.
Live your story out loud.
Because the real flex?
Is being free.
Love, Lumina
Missed these letters: gold as always !
Thank you for sharing this.
I'm glad I found your newsletter.❤️