We're All Winging It

There’s a commonly shared idea that most people are winging it in this game of life. It’s not to say that everyone lives without intentionality or plans. It is simply a reminder that even with 100% focus or faith, there are still variables that are out of our control in this life. Two years ago, someone stopped hanging out with their friends, and decided to put in 1 year into studying hard and focusing on getting into grad school. They ended up spending 1 year in the pandemic. Someone else planned a beautiful wedding closer to their grandparents, so that their dream of having their grandparents at their wedding will happen. Covid-19 showed up, and took their grandmother while they were in lockdown. No wedding, no Grandma. Whether we like it or not, we’re all winging this thing called life. By all means, we should live with intention and hope. But we must also be open to letting the reins go, especially when it’s killing us. 

Many times your pain and suffering is from holding on to things to keep it all together, because you’re so afraid of letting go. How can I leave this job, when I have nothing to fall back on? How can I end this relationship right now? How can I lose this particular opportunity? The list is endless. Sometimes activating your worst-case scenario births the dream that you’ve envisioned for your life. You let go of one rein and realize that it’s not so bad after-all. It’s not always immediate magic. It may be hard at the beginning stage of letting go, but you have to trust that it will work out for you. When you start to take care of yourself, and focus on moving in the direction that brings out a better version of yourself, you’ll find that the pathway starts to open up, and everything that needs to support your new move, will show up. During this time, you may experience moments  that seem bleak, where you feel stupid for making a decision - that’s usually our human need for control. But you must remember that, even if it’s not part of your plan, it’s still working in your favor.

Sometimes having a plan is overrated, we need to just let go and see what happens.

What’s on the other side of fear?

xx

Adaora ‘Lumina’ Mbelu