On Boundaries

When we hear the word “boundaries,” we tend to imagine it as this big wall that we need to put up in order to protect ourselves from the stress of interactions, or of the the world. Our idea of boundaries can be rigid, and in the process of keeping people out, we can end up boxing ourselves in. Boundaries have their place in our lives. But we must leave room for the fact that no matter the healthy boundaries that we set, we can still find ourselves falling back into old habits, and accepting things that do not serve us - it’s part of the human experience.

I got clarity when I realized that instead of focusing my energy on trying to keep things out, I would just focus on building and living my life as I would like, and that in the process of doing this, whatever did not serve me will fall off.

I chose to flow. In this flowing and moving through life, I keep moving away from the things that don’t need to be in my life, because these things do not add positive value to my life. The best boundaries aren’t walls. The best boundaries are you…flowing away, such that you don’t need to build walls.