Do you know what makes you happy?

Happiness is very personal.

What makes one person happy, might not make you happy. However, there are some things you can learn from the happiness of others. Sometimes simply by observing what makes other people happy, you might find some of your happiness triggers. It's a great inspiration. 

When it comes to my happiness, I’ve found that it typically revolves around two things:

1. The people around me, and

2. Being able to sort out my needs.

We’ve all heard that “money can’t buy happiness.” Yes, money can’t buy happiness, but money can trigger happiness. I always talk about the importance of self-awareness, and context, because if you take on beliefs without knowing your own internal needs or wants, you’ll end up adopting different ideologies as a coping mechanism. So, you don’t wholeheartedly believe them, you’re just holding on to them because you don’t want to come across as superficial.

Money solves problems. Money is very helpful. Money is a great tool. I’m very comfortable with the fact that Money makes me happy. If the things money can do for you makes you happy, please acknowledge this. Don’t run away from it. 

People are super important to me - my friends, my community, and even strangers. If I could walk around making others happy all the time, I would. Seeing others happy is a huge happiness trigger for me.  I love to be proactive with my relationships. However, for me to be proactive, I need to be in a certain mind and heart space which requires solving my challenges. My love for giving is part self-less, and part selfish. The selfish part is that I get a high from seeing others break free and succeed. I mostly inspire through my BE-ing. However, I’m also intentional about motivating and inspiring others to be their best selves. This intentionality comes from a place where I view my friends wins as mine. When they win, I win. I’m happy to invest my time, energy, resources, and encouragement in them because I genuinely want them to win, and I also get a large dose of happiness from that win.

Again, please acknowledge these things. It doesn’t need to be one or the other. You don’t need to only be self-less. If you get something back from doing what you do, acknowledge it, and nurture it. It becomes a great motivator too. 

I don’t think we need to struggle to find happiness. I think that most people know their happiness triggers, but you’re either ashamed of it, or you don’t believe it is “right.” Maybe spending money on experiences is your thing, maybe taking piano lessons, buying a dog, gazing at the stars, visiting friends more, cooking, dancing in front of the mirror, picking up a skill, or reading books is your happiness. It doesn't need to be complex.

Not every time….“Happiness is Gratitude.” It’s true. It is gratitude. Then what? 

Stop denying yourself happiness. 

Do you know what makes you happy? Write back to tell me about it or leave a comment by clicking on the button below - I’d love to hear from you!

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