Before You Cut Off

or write-off or cross out...

Give people room to grow and evolve "out of," or "into." Not everytime - cross them out of your life completely.

When we're hurt by someone, our immediate reaction is to cut them off. If the person is really toxic for your health and growth, I agree with cutting them off. Especially in the moment where you need to prioritize yourself. Infact, I am the Queen of sliding out of toxic friendships/relationships/WhatsApp groups etc. Anywhere there is drama, I'm gone. So, yes prioritize you. But....understand that some behaviors and emotions that people exhibit are for a period.

We need to give room for people to grow and evolve either out of a behavior, a situation, or in to the type of person that we would be comfortable having in our space. We all go through seasons, and situations in life and many of us handle things very differently.

Before you write-off someone completely, I ask that you give room to allow for that evolution. I have built some really solid relationships with people that I initially didn't connect with. I also currently have relationships with people who behaved differently in a particular season of their life, and have learned and changed into the beauty that they are now.

And even we need to grow too!

This, my friends...is the beauty of life….That we understand human evolution, and that we remain kind-hearted and open to loving and appreciating people as they learn, grow, heal, and bloom. 

So before you "cut off," give it some thought, and some time.

xx

Adaora ‘Lumina’ Mbelu