"Be Mature!"

Stop letting adulthood complicate your life with its over glorification of maturity.

As you grow, one of the biggest lies you are sold is the need to be "mature." For many people, this wanting to be mature, caused a lot of problems in their early lives. Think about it...when you were younger...if you refused to drink and smoke, you were called immature. When a perv wanted to approach you, they would often say "you're not behaving mature." When a narcissist wanted control over you, they would say "act maturely."

In our adult lives, the maturity scam continues. Maturity has become our way to mentally and emotionally abuse ourselves. You don't speak about your challenges because you believe you should be "mature," enough to handle it. You don't tell people when they're wrong, because you're just being "mature." You don't cry when you should, because that's not a sign of "maturity.” When you don't handle a situation as best as you should have, it eats you up because you think you weren't mature about it. You don't laugh, joke, or be silly because it's not "mature." You even look for clothes that make you look more "mature." We've even applied it to Christianity - there's ‘Baby Christian,’ and then there's ‘Mature Christian.’ So, you spend your entire life trying to be mature. And you don't even know what that really means, you just know it's a thing that you must be....because your parents told you to “Be Mature!”

Let me help you: Maturity means "…having reached the most advanced stage in a process," or " to be fully developed." In this context, none of us is mature. None. Not you, not me, and not your parents . We keep learning, growing, and evolving throughout our lives. We never truly become fully developed or reach the most advanced stage. For every stage we are at, there's a next stage. So…this “maturity,” that you're holding so tightly to your chest - it's a scamMMM…!

I hope you live a full life. ❤

xx

Adaora ‘Lumina’ Mbelu

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I dropped a new #SwitchOnWithAdaora podcast episode on dealing with “Imposter Syndrome (ep.56)” I hope it helps you! Feel free to share with friends!